Experience

Let’s talk about sex… or, why there is more to it than downloading an app

CakeThu 21st February 2019

There was a Kickstarter doing the rounds on social media last week. It’s called LOVESYNC and it’s an...

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It’s time to take relationships less seriously

CakeWed 9th January 2019

I have noticed in the last year or two that some people I met went straight from being...

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How do we model what we do not see? Learning to be patient in an impatient world

CakeThu 18th October 2018

Attention and patience: the two things that we find hard, or are reluctant, to give but which we...

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“Wanderlust”, opening up and creating extraordinary relationships

CakeSat 8th September 2018

A shorter version of this piece appeared in The Sun on September 8th 2018 https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/7205339/polyamorous-relationships-sex-… Every relationship, even...

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The limitations and possibilities of language

CakeTue 26th June 2018

I have written previously about the power and limitations of language and, as I said then, the core concept...

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Affairs, desire and conscious relationships

CakeSat 16th June 2018

I recently had a wonderful conversation with writer and traveller, Christine Wild, about desire and conscious relationships, here...

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How NOT to open your relationship…

CakeWed 22nd November 2017

I read this article and posted this tweet today. No explicit conversations, relying on “mutual understanding”, ignoring boundaries...

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What love is to me?

CakeMon 30th October 2017

The Greeks had over half a dozen words for love, many European languages distinguish between romantic and familial love...

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