Intergenerational

Stopping drinking for the second (and third) time

CakeSat 27th June 2020

I’ve touched on the topic of drinking before and many people that know me also know that I...

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On anger and adolescence – thoughts inspired by Stephen King

CakeSun 7th June 2020

CW: menstruation, adolescence, trauma, c-ptsd, mention but no detail of abusive behaviour As part of a recent period...

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Friendship and change – thoughts inspired by IT Chapter 2

CakeFri 20th September 2019

This post was inspired by the watching of IT Chapter 2 and by the re-reading of the Stephen...

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What my son eating (or not eating) broccoli has to do with sex: thoughts on food, sex, pleasure and society

CakeThu 15th November 2018

Recently I have been thinking a lot about pleasure. I have noticed how hard I find it hard...

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Selfishness, self care and self determination

CakeThu 8th November 2018

One of the things I have been called many times is “selfish”. A lot of the time that...

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What are the ‘should’s in your life telling you? A re-visioning of self-care

CakeThu 1st November 2018

I should eat better… I should go to the gym… I should watch less TV… I should get...

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How do we model what we do not see? Learning to be patient in an impatient world

CakeThu 18th October 2018

Attention and patience: the two things that we find hard, or are reluctant, to give but which we...

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Overcoming the fear of change/loss

CakeThu 26th July 2018

One thing that often gets missed, in all the drama around the changes I have gone through in...

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Why being ‘selfish’ made me a better parent

CakeThu 26th April 2018

One of the most common accusations I have had levelled at me since I came out about my...

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