Self Care

The one thing you need to do to improve your sex life

CakeThu 20th June 2019

Let’s talk about sex. Because we don’t, do we? Not really. Not fully, authentically and honestly.  I know...

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Going deeper

CakeThu 13th June 2019

I recently read a wonderful article by Steve Pavlina. It is here. The article talks about how the...

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Who is in your bedroom right now?

CakeThu 22nd November 2018

It has been over three years since the Ashley Madison hacking scandal and, with social media increasingly cited as a...

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What my son eating (or not eating) broccoli has to do with sex: thoughts on food, sex, pleasure and society

CakeThu 15th November 2018

Recently I have been thinking a lot about pleasure. I have noticed how hard I find it hard...

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Selfishness, self care and self determination

CakeThu 8th November 2018

One of the things I have been called many times is “selfish”. A lot of the time that...

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What are the ‘should’s in your life telling you? A re-visioning of self-care

CakeThu 1st November 2018

I should eat better… I should go to the gym… I should watch less TV… I should get...

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How do we model what we do not see? Learning to be patient in an impatient world

CakeThu 18th October 2018

Attention and patience: the two things that we find hard, or are reluctant, to give but which we...

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City and Self

CakeThu 2nd August 2018

I am back in my city. Having lived in three countries before the age of twelve and more...

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Overcoming the fear of change/loss

CakeThu 26th July 2018

One thing that often gets missed, in all the drama around the changes I have gone through in...

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