I contributed, with Andrea, to a converation on BBC FIve Live about conscious relationships earlier in April. The dialigue was about monogamy, non-monogamy and conscious relationship choices and involved us as well as relationship coach, Sam Owen, and a psychologist, Dr Christine Campbell.
Listen from 2:36
In pondering polyamory and my journey so far, it occurred to me that almost all the problems I have encountered in this, the second year of being poly, have been due to trying to protect the feelings of a partner(s).
Clear your plate? Don’t be so greedy! This will make you feel better… Enjoy… You deserve it… Don’t get fat… We are all taught how to eat by the messages and actions we see around us. Maybe our mother dieted, or ate a lot of low-fat but high-sugar foods and so we associate those chemical-laden horrors with health? Maybe we were taught to eat up, and so we never learnt to hear our body’s signals of hunger and satiety? Maybe we were rewarded with sweets: pudding is all too often an easy way to show a love that it can be hard to say.
I turn 42 today and, as a huge Douglas Adams fan, the parallels between my age and Deep Thought’s answer to the ultimate question of life, the universe and everything cannot and, in my opinion, should not be avoided.