On anger and adolescence – thoughts inspired by Stephen King

CakeSun 7th June 2020

CW: menstruation, adolescence, trauma, c-ptsd, mention but no detail of abusive behaviour As part of a recent period...

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C-ptsd and me – How the pandemic helped me tune into how tuned out (and triggered) I was

CakeSun 24th May 2020

CW: C-ptsd, alcoholism, parenting, conflict, trauma, menstruation As someone who has actively avoided all of the “The silver...

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CakeWed 15th January 2020

Love and the four key values In my TEDx talk, I mention four key values which I believe...

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Food, change and hope – thoughts on Veganuary

CakeWed 1st January 2020

I used to think that the big changes in my life started with stopping drinking but, before that,...

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TEDx talk on relationships

CakeSat 28th December 2019

I gave a talk about what we might think of beyond happy ever after when it comes to...

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Boundaries – the foundation of self-consent

CakeFri 6th December 2019

I’m done. What was the final straw? I’m not sure that any emotional process can be reduced to...

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New words and old feelings – values based living and loving

CakeMon 18th November 2019

I was lucky enough to speak with Martha Lane-Fox at the TEDx Open University event in November 2019....

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On the gifts of sadness

CakeFri 15th November 2019

Written in the Spring and shared in the Winter. I have been feeling very sad of late. Sadness...

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Co-habiting complexities

CakeFri 25th October 2019

Co-habiting and what it can teach us about how we relate to others in partnership I have, in...

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