“Opening up about relationships” – a panel discussion on 18 April 2019

CakeTue 16th April 2019

I have been invited to take part in a panel discussion about open and monogamous relationships. The event...

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Let’s talk about sex… or, why there is more to it than downloading an app

CakeThu 21st February 2019

There was a Kickstarter doing the rounds on social media last week. It’s called LOVESYNC and it’s an...

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What my son eating (or not eating) broccoli has to do with sex: thoughts on food, sex, pleasure and society

CakeThu 15th November 2018

Recently I have been thinking a lot about pleasure. I have noticed how hard I find it hard...

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The Strictly snog

CakeThu 11th October 2018

The Strictly “curse” strikes again and yet, this time, it feels different. There feels like a very real gap between...

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Kink and me: A story about making mistakes and learning to explore sex and desire consciously

CakeThu 4th October 2018

I can still see those first images. The first D/s* images I EVER saw. He had said: you...

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Consciously exploring sex: Mapping your landscapes of desire

CakeThu 4th October 2018

There are many different starting points for the journey into your own landscapes of desire and, hopefully, the...

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Conscious explorations of sex and desire… and the story of my journey into kink and BDSM

CakeThu 4th October 2018

Some of the most powerful scenes in my first book (Appetite) are also the scenes hardly anyone talks about....

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“Wanderlust”, opening up and creating extraordinary relationships

CakeSat 8th September 2018

A shorter version of this piece appeared in The Sun on September 8th 2018 https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/7205339/polyamorous-relationships-sex-… Every relationship, even...

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One-penis policies: processing jealousy and the need for rules about rules

CakeThu 5th July 2018

The question that most people ask, when they learn that a person is exploring a non-monogamous or polyamorous...

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