Why being ‘selfish’ made me a better parent

CakeThu 26th April 2018

One of the most common accusations I have had levelled at me since I came out about my...

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How to stop protecting other people’s feelings*

CakeWed 18th April 2018

In pondering polyamory and my journey so far, it occurred to me that almost all the problems I...

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Sugar and self power

CakeTue 3rd April 2018

Look around you… what do you see? There is something there that is so pervasive and present that...

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Why Jamie Oliver has it wrong… as does everyone…

CakeWed 7th March 2018

Even the more nuanced debates around food are too simplistic. There are comfortably off people who live on...

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Book groups and the importance of talking about stories

CakeFri 2nd March 2018

I have been lucky enough to be part of a writing group for nearly five years and they...

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What is better: food or sex…?

CakeWed 28th February 2018

If you had asked me that question in my 20s and 30s I would *definitely* have said food… ...

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Binary thinking and bisexuality

CakeFri 2nd February 2018

This essay discusses simplistic or binary thinking (this or that thinking) in relation to sexuality and what I believe...

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On sofa-boxset-takeaway culture

CakeTue 30th January 2018

A thoughtful and compassionate piece on the big money interests behind our habits… and how only conscious awareness...

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Being poly and only dating one person

CakeSun 28th January 2018

I have been polyamorous for nearly three years and, yet, for almost the whole of that time I have...

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