Why Jamie Oliver has it wrong… as does everyone…

CakeWed 7th March 2018

Even the more nuanced debates around food are too simplistic. There are comfortably off people who live on...

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Book groups and the importance of talking about stories

CakeFri 2nd March 2018

I have been lucky enough to be part of a writing group for nearly five years and they...

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What is better: food or sex…?

CakeWed 28th February 2018

If you had asked me that question in my 20s and 30s I would *definitely* have said food… ...

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Binary thinking and bisexuality

CakeFri 2nd February 2018

This essay discusses simplistic or binary thinking (this or that thinking) in relation to sexuality and what I believe...

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On sofa-boxset-takeaway culture

CakeTue 30th January 2018

A thoughtful and compassionate piece on the big money interests behind our habits… and how only conscious awareness...

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Being poly and only dating one person

CakeSun 28th January 2018

I have been polyamorous for nearly three years and, yet, for almost the whole of that time I have...

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Learning how to be alive

CakeTue 2nd January 2018

Learning to write is like learning to be alive: an essentially solitary journey where you are already good...

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On Appetite

CakeFri 29th December 2017

I always describe Appetite as being about food and sex and it is but it is more than...

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Be careful out there…

CakeThu 5th October 2017

It is fascinating to see so many representations of non-monogamy and polyamory surfacing in the media at the...

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