Conscious monogamy

CakeWed 17th January 2018

At the start of a new year, many people assess their emotional wellbeing and their relationships. It’s natural...

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Someone you know is kinky…

CakeMon 15th January 2018

One of those someone’s is me. Since the first big interview I have done as part of the publicity...

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Learning how to be alive

CakeTue 2nd January 2018

Learning to write is like learning to be alive: an essentially solitary journey where you are already good...

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On Appetite

CakeFri 29th December 2017

I always describe Appetite as being about food and sex and it is but it is more than...

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Being seen, or who is organising the diary in your relationship and why?

CakeThu 7th December 2017

Sometimes we uncover BIG things. Sometimes, the work of months and months of therapy can feel very unrewarding,...

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How NOT to open your relationship…

CakeWed 22nd November 2017

I read this article and posted this tweet today. No explicit conversations, relying on “mutual understanding”, ignoring boundaries...

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Label free and limitless relationships

CakeFri 10th November 2017

Label-free and limitless relationships:  Embracing relational authenticity One of the first things we do with children is teach...

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What love is to me?

CakeMon 30th October 2017

The Greeks had over half a dozen words for love, many European languages distinguish between romantic and familial love...

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Be careful out there…

CakeThu 5th October 2017

It is fascinating to see so many representations of non-monogamy and polyamory surfacing in the media at the...

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