The answer to life, the universe and everything

CakeSat 14th April 2018

I turn 42 today and, as a huge Douglas Adams fan, the parallels between my age and Deep Thought’s...

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Interview with Lori Beth about my relationship with sex

CakeWed 21st March 2018

In which Lori Beth and I talk about my formative relationship with sex, how that shaped my 20s...

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Consent and conscious relationships

CakeTue 20th March 2018

I write a lot about sex in my novel Appetite but I never mention consent. Not writing about consent was...

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Article in The Sun 25th January 2018

CakeSun 28th January 2018

This is a more accurate reflection of what happened in my relationships and shows the joy that the changes have...

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Being poly and only dating one person

CakeSun 28th January 2018

I have been polyamorous for nearly three years and, yet, for almost the whole of that time I have...

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Boundaries and resolutions

CakeWed 24th January 2018

During the preparation for a second podcast with Christine Wild and Lori Bisbey about the boundaries, it occurred to me...

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Relationship change and acceptance

CakeMon 22nd January 2018

Everything is always changing so nothing can be yours – Shunryu Suzuki I love the sense of calm...

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The Guardian article 20/01/18

CakeSat 20th January 2018

I always hoped sharing my story would help people to see that a changed and ended marriage is...

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Conscious monogamy

CakeWed 17th January 2018

At the start of a new year, many people assess their emotional wellbeing and their relationships. It’s natural...

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