Self

One-penis policies: processing jealousy and the need for rules about rules

CakeThu 5th July 2018

The question that most people ask, when they learn that a person is exploring a non-monogamous or polyamorous...

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What having a crush taught me: feelings as signposts to understanding

CakeThu 7th June 2018

I love it when you come across a simple idea communicated effectively in a short piece of writing,...

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A Guide to Conscious Relationships

CakeThu 17th May 2018

Commit to explicit, honest and timely communication The importance of clear and open communication cannot be over-stated. This means...

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Why being ‘selfish’ made me a better parent

CakeThu 26th April 2018

One of the most common accusations I have had levelled at me since I came out about my...

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How to stop protecting other people’s feelings*

CakeWed 18th April 2018

In pondering polyamory and my journey so far, it occurred to me that almost all the problems I...

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The answer to life, the universe and everything

CakeSat 14th April 2018

I turn 42 today and, as a huge Douglas Adams fan, the parallels between my age and Deep Thought’s...

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Do you know your own mind?

CakeMon 19th February 2018

When was the last time you thought about your brain? That pound of grey jelly in your head...

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Being poly and only dating one person

CakeSun 28th January 2018

I have been polyamorous for nearly three years and, yet, for almost the whole of that time I have...

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Boundaries and resolutions

CakeWed 24th January 2018

During the preparation for a second podcast with Christine Wild and Lori Bisbey about the boundaries, it occurred to me...

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