The answer to life, the universe and everything

CakeSat 14th April 2018

I turn 42 today and, as a huge Douglas Adams fan, the parallels between my age and Deep Thought’s...

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Do you know your own mind?

CakeMon 19th February 2018

When was the last time you thought about your brain? That pound of grey jelly in your head...

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Being poly and only dating one person

CakeSun 28th January 2018

I have been polyamorous for nearly three years and, yet, for almost the whole of that time I have...

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Boundaries and resolutions

CakeWed 24th January 2018

During the preparation for a second podcast with Christine Wild and Lori Bisbey about the boundaries, it occurred to me...

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Relationship change and acceptance

CakeMon 22nd January 2018

Everything is always changing so nothing can be yours – Shunryu Suzuki I love the sense of calm...

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Conscious monogamy

CakeWed 17th January 2018

At the start of a new year, many people assess their emotional wellbeing and their relationships. It’s natural...

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Learning how to be alive

CakeTue 2nd January 2018

Learning to write is like learning to be alive: an essentially solitary journey where you are already good...

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Being seen, or who is organising the diary in your relationship and why?

CakeThu 7th December 2017

Sometimes we uncover BIG things. Sometimes, the work of months and months of therapy can feel very unrewarding,...

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What love is to me?

CakeMon 30th October 2017

The Greeks had over half a dozen words for love, many European languages distinguish between romantic and familial love...

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